The idea that people have something “wrong” with them is a tricky one, especially when it comes to issues related to emotional and mental health. Yes, you could have troubling symptoms that are new and need to be diagnosed or an ongoing mental health issue that is not yet managed. You could also have a terrible situation in your life that needs to be addressed or fixed. But…does that always have to equal “something is WRONG with you (as a person)?”
The word “wrong” is a very low energy word. It does not uplift or create a positive, healing vibe. True, it can be an important word that sounds an alarm when something must be given your full and immediate attention. There are very serious problems in life that can create chronic issues and these issues may continue to create suffering. But once you start to uncover the layers of the problem and start to work on fixing it, must it forever be that you continue to live in the space of “something is wrong with me?” It takes a lot of courage to let go of the feeling or thought that you are flawed, broken or unfixable and move into a space where you accept that you can become the whole person that you were born to be.
Switching gears from searching constantly for what is wrong to focusing instead on what is right or working can be challenging; especially for someone is suffering from severe panic or depression, some form of delusion, or even suicidal thoughts. Of course, any severe or life-threatening symptoms must be safely managed before they get to a place where they can benefit from a given psychological or holistic treatment. But once a person is stable and ready to work on healing, their mental attitude is of utmost importance to the work of bringing about lasting changes in emotional health and relief from symptoms.
This concept is one that you might find in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), a technique often used in mental health therapy. CBT focuses on how our thinking creates or contributes to our behavior and/or emotional state. If you concentrate on the thought: we are all created as perfect beings even when we think or feel that this can’t possibly be true, this affirmative thought falls in line with the practices of CBT (fixing negative thoughts). This particular thought also happens to fall in line with spiritual thinking. In fact, a lot of the concepts used in psychology have their roots in spiritual practice or philosophy.
This is the place where mental health and spirituality meet. Spirituality can mean different things to different people but it always involves the idea that there is something more. An unseen force behind the scenes in life that inspires the question, “Who am I and what am I doing here anyway?” This is the question that sparks the spiritual journey. Fear, anger, disappointment, loss – difficult emotions - create the eventual question of “Why?”
Each individual must find the answers to such questions on their own path and in their own way. There really is nothing wrong with you. We are all here together in this Universe to figure how to make it all work. Forces work with us and forces work against us. There is nothing wrong with you that you need to face alone either. Reach out for help and take those first steps toward healing. Keep moving. Keep healing. Never give up. Develop a relationship with what is RIGHT with you and in your life.
Kristen Valentine, MSW, LCSW Balanced Life Counseling Services